二、            如果一个外国人和你在藏藏问题上意见不一致：

6、尊重人们不同的文化，知道他的政治观点和道德观念与你不同。（举个例子，美国人通常对各种“独立”运动都抱积极态度，因为他们认为今天美国的好日子完全归功于美国的独立。还有，别国的人通常对政府抱有更多的怀疑，尤其是对中国中央政府这样的极权政府）

DO respect the fact that the person’s culture is different, and that he views political and moral issues differently. （For example, Americans often have a positive view of “independence” movements because they think of all the good things that came from American independence. Also, people from some countries are more suspicious of government, especially authoritarian governments like the central government of China）

7、请记住他没有长在中国，所以他接触的是关于藏藏的不同信息，其中的某些比你在中国得到的更准确。（在学习藏藏体验藏藏文化方面，中国人的优势在于你们有更多机会，而外国人的优势在于他们可以不受中国政府的宣传、审查和欺骗的干扰）

DO realize that since he didn’t grow up in China, he has access to different information about Tibet, some of which is more accurate than what you learned in China. （Chinese people have the advantage of having better opportunities to study and experience Tibet. Foreigners have the advantage of learning about Tibet without the interference of Chinese government propaganda, censorship, and deceit.）

8、与之友好的辩论，晓之以实动之以理。（可以争论，不要感情用事，最好是你们都能从中学习）

DO have a friendly debate based on facts and logic.（Have a little debate. Don’t get emotional. Hopefully you will both learn something.）

9、不要直斥别人所知的所有都是错的。（他对藏藏所知的一点一滴未必都是错的，善意的纠正比直斥别人无知更有礼貌）

DON’T tell the person that everything he knows is wrong. （The person is probably not wrong about everything regarding Tibet, and it is more polite to gently correct than to tell him that he is ignorant.）

10、当你手头没有证据时，就别把话说绝。（“藏藏过去是、现在是永远是中国的一部分”就是一个不完整的判断。对于藏藏与中国的联系你必须提供有说服力的历史证据）

DON’T make absolute statements that you cannot readily support. （“Tibet was, is and always will be a part of China” is not a complete argument. You must provide convincing historical evidence of the ties between Tibet and China.）

三、            如果一个中国人和你在藏藏问题上有分歧

11、要尊重观点的不同，尝试理解为何有人与官方意见不同。（再次强调，我认为“不同”是最好的老师）

DO talk about your differences of opinion respectfully and learn why some people disagree with the official Chinese position. （Once again, I think it is best to try to learn from someone with different opinions.）

12、不要直斥别人为“卖国贼”，并以暴力威胁对方及其家庭的安全。（与中国政府意见不同并不等于叛国，暴力或威胁使用暴力永不可恕！他们让中国看上去既不文明又凶巴巴。中国人对待他们同胞杜克大学的王千源的方式让我不寒而栗）

DON’T denounce the person as a “traitor” and threaten him or his family

with violence. （Disagreeing with the Chinese government is different from betraying China. Violence or threats of violence are never excusable, and they make China seem nasty and uncivilized. I was appalled at the way Grace Wang at Duke was treated by her fellow Chinese citizens.）